What to do when you are in a MOOD
The other day I woke up in a foul mood.
The first thought in my head was. I’m so tired. And the first words I heard were, “didn’t you promise the boys donuts before school?” I was late for my promise before my feet hit the floor.
It was a normal day — as normal as anything is these days! — so I won’t bore you with the details but suffice it to say that I was finding all sorts of reasons to BE grouchy.
Every. Little. Thing. was pushing my buttons.
Apparently, I have a LOT of buttons.
What is wrong with these People!* I thought.
What is wrong with me?
Well, for starters, most days I start my day by walking 3 miles. When the alarm goes off, I usually pop out of bed to go meet my friend. Moving my body and talking with a dear friend are my anchors. I didn’t do either.
I usually have quiet time before the People wake up. That didn’t happen.
I often drink a lot of water in the morning and have a healthy breakfast. Nope. (See donut plan above)
You get the idea.
So, before I could get my day on track and show up to myself, my clients, and the People, I had to get myself together.
So I showed myself some self-compassion, acknowledging that it is okay to have a bad day.
I took a few quiet minutes and grounded myself in gratitude.
I washed my face sloooooowly and was really present with that process…
I prioritized my swirling to-do list and did only the MOST important task.
I drank a lot of water and I was deliberate about what else I put in my body that day.
I decided to let The People in on it: I’m in a mood today. Please give me some grace….
And, when the kids were done with virtual school and my client work was done, I took a nap.
While it wasn’t my best day ever, but I was able to be tender with myself, present to my clients, and honest with my family.
I’m calling that a win.
It is so easy to get out of our routine and feel off. That’s life!
We are all going to have rough, off days. And, with a little self-compassion, and by being intentional, we can gently step back into our self-care practices that bring us back to center.
I invite you to take a few minutes to journal or ponder these questions:
When you are having a rotten day, what thoughts swirl through your head?
What is one (or many!) sure-fire SMALL action to help you shift into a more positive space?
Is that small action a part of your “regular” self-care? (as in, is that something that you have a routine or commitment to?) If not, how could you build that into your self-care routines/rituals?
What are you grateful for today?
*In case you didn’t know, I affectionately call my family “the People.”